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How to maintain positive mind?

From many questions that i received these couple days, i found that a lot of our friends trouble with maintaining their mind to stay positive. They understand that positive attitudes and gratitude feeling are the foundation of every successful life and happiness, but it seems the world always gave them bad news. Everything seems not working well, our efforts haven't paid yet, in our mind start to creep doubt and anxiety toward our future.

Well, there are numerous philosophies and techniques develop to cope with such situation. I have been in such situations for many times and already try many techniques, from always maintaining positive affirmation everyday to contemplate the meaning of impermanence. Though, such techniques are good, but it is not easily understood deeply, required exclusive time and often forgotten during most of our time.

In short, i have found a better way to deal with negative mind and stay positive. It is not meant that you will never have negative mind, because it is impossible, but you can always change to positive mind whenever you wanted to effortlessly.


Honestly, i haven't read bible in ages, but when i read it again, i found this parable:

The Parable of the Weeds (Matthew 13:24-29)

24 Jesus told them another parable: “The kingdom of heaven is like a man who sowed good seed in his field. 25 But while everyone was sleeping, his enemy came and sowed weeds among the wheat, and went away. 26 When the wheat sprouted and formed heads, then the weeds also appeared.
27 “The owner’s servants came to him and said, ‘Sir, didn’t you sow good seed in your field? Where then did the weeds come from?’

28 “‘An enemy did this,’ he replied.

“The servants asked him, ‘Do you want us to go and pull them up?’

29 “‘No,’ he answered, ‘because while you are pulling the weeds, you may uproot the wheat with them. 30 Let both grow together until the harvest. At that time I will tell the harvesters: First collect the weeds and tie them in bundles to be burned; then gather the wheat and bring it into my barn.’”


Our Christian brothers understand this parable in the context that Jesus sow the seed of goodness, those who believe get into heaven and those who doesn't go to hell. I used to believe it like that, but after learning and practice Reiki and meditation more than a decade, i understand it differently.

According to me now, what Jesus trying to say in that parable is a technique to maintain positive mind and feeling within us. Let me explain a little bit about subject in the parable before i explain how it correlate with our mind:

The Kingdom of heaven = Our mind and feeling

The sower = Our own soul, our insight will, who want nothing but goodness and life.

The enemy = Negative conditions, our fear, worry and doubt.

The servant = All surrounding environment that support us, friends, family, nature, etc.


A kingdom is hierarchical structure, in which the king hold the ultimate word, when the king decide all subordinates follow. Therefore, when Jesus said about "The kingdom of heaven" obviously he talked about something that we can control, something that make us a king. In what things we can act like a king in a kingdom? Off course our mind and feeling ( our inner heart. Only in these things we have direct control.

Then, who we are so we can control our kingdom? Jesus often said that we are our father's children, it also means that we are part of the universal life itself. Our body is made of from material worlds and owe its dna from our parents but our soul is part of the universal life. Which is our real parents.

As our soul part of the universal life, we have inherent wisdom and always want goodness and more life for us and the whole life in the universe. We have tendency to feel and think good. So, our soul is the sower of wheat germ

But, the world is always moving, its appearance always changing, and make us confuse. Nothing is predictable in 100 %, our mind start to doubt and begin to worry about our future. Hence, our doubt and worry are the enemy who sow weeds.

Now the solutions:

‘because while you are pulling the weeds, you may uproot the wheat with them. 30 Let both grow together until the harvest. At that time I will tell the harvesters: First collect the weeds and tie them in bundles to be burned; then gather the wheat and bring it into my barn.’

The sower know that if he uproot the weed, the wheat will get uprooted too. When we battle with our doubt and worry, wanting it to get away, we also want our desire for goodness away too. Because the cause of our doubt and worry for the first time is our own desire for goodness.

When we want something, we declare within our mind about something good to achieve, we start to attach our hope and direct efforts toward it. Unfortunately, bad things happen, and make us fear that what we hope may not be delivered.

Therefore, negative emotions such as doubt, fear and worry always accompany positive emotions such as love, hope and creativity. If you uprooted negative you will uprooted the later.

If we can't reject the negative how we deal with them? the sower in the parable then said"

'Let both grow together until the harvest. At that time I will tell the harvesters: First collect the weeds and tie them in bundles to be burned; then gather the wheat and bring it into my barn.'

You can see that Jesus, taught us to let the negative grow along with positive ones, let them grow till maturity, when mature we can easily differentiate which one is good and bad, and do something about it.

Just focus with the goodness within you, let along the negative ones, make sure your goodness grow, when the result come, you can easily directing your mind and feeling toward the goodness why?

Because, your surrounding, your environment, your friends, family will react to your goodness eventually just like servants in parables to bring you good result and put the bad one into the flame of critics for fueling future improvement.


I felt, that this parable is very easy to digest and understood. Every-time we deal with negative emotions always remember this parable, let along the negative ones, and focus to grow the good one, wait till everything mature, and good things can be harvested and bad things can be used for further improvement.

I hope this article may help you in your life.